When considering what yeshiva to join one can get deflected.
This is not all that different than if one is considering whether to go to Harvard for a business degree or some hick town, no name, liberal arts collage.
Why should this make a difference when all one wants is to learn Torah? The difference is in ones children.
This is because while in the secular world the difference between Harvard or a liberal arts collage is mainly about career, in the yeshiva world the difference is in terms of the "Shiduch."
You go to the Mir Yeshiva in Brooklyn , or Chaim Berlin, whether you will get a good shiduch is not the issue, but your children will.
This is because the Shiduch is the hidden fulcrum that everything revolves on in the frum world.
It is the hidden world of Shiduch dynamics that no one yet has mapped out.
But a few major rules are:
(1) Good families look for good families.
(2) When a good family has a bad apple then they look for a baal teshuva to unload him or her onto.
(3) If you are however a baal teshuva and obey the rules, your children will be offered good shiduchim. [But you won't.]
There are many many more rules but these are few.
Some of the rules have to do with character. A woman who has been divorced and spends most of her mental energy on trying to show and prove to everyone that her husband was bad man will give her own children such a bad name that no one in their right mind will every offer to her children a decent shiduch. People associate bad character with bad news.
Some of the rules have to do with names of families. And some rules have to do with what yeshiva one is apart of.
What is important to know here and why i bring this up is simply this. If you are part of a good yeshiva--don't walk out. Don't leave the Mir to join some no name kollel.--or any so called kollel for that matter. Better to be part of an authentic yeshiva even as a nobody, than have a big kollel check that takes you away from an authentic Torah institution to some trash bin.
Some of the rules have to do with situation awareness. This is what fighter pilots needs when they go into combat. They need a 3-d image of what is going on around them.
The enemy is other yeshivas that try to convince you that they are top tier. Don't fall for that common trap.
This is because while in the secular world the difference between Harvard or a liberal arts collage is mainly about career, in the yeshiva world the difference is in terms of the "Shiduch."
You go to the Mir Yeshiva in Brooklyn , or Chaim Berlin, whether you will get a good shiduch is not the issue, but your children will.
This is because the Shiduch is the hidden fulcrum that everything revolves on in the frum world.
It is the hidden world of Shiduch dynamics that no one yet has mapped out.
But a few major rules are:
(1) Good families look for good families.
(2) When a good family has a bad apple then they look for a baal teshuva to unload him or her onto.
(3) If you are however a baal teshuva and obey the rules, your children will be offered good shiduchim. [But you won't.]
There are many many more rules but these are few.
Some of the rules have to do with character. A woman who has been divorced and spends most of her mental energy on trying to show and prove to everyone that her husband was bad man will give her own children such a bad name that no one in their right mind will every offer to her children a decent shiduch. People associate bad character with bad news.
Some of the rules have to do with names of families. And some rules have to do with what yeshiva one is apart of.
What is important to know here and why i bring this up is simply this. If you are part of a good yeshiva--don't walk out. Don't leave the Mir to join some no name kollel.--or any so called kollel for that matter. Better to be part of an authentic yeshiva even as a nobody, than have a big kollel check that takes you away from an authentic Torah institution to some trash bin.
Some of the rules have to do with situation awareness. This is what fighter pilots needs when they go into combat. They need a 3-d image of what is going on around them.
The enemy is other yeshivas that try to convince you that they are top tier. Don't fall for that common trap.
