By Ray Dalio
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Principles
"Where do principles come from? Sometimes we forge our own principles and sometimes we accept others’ principles, or holistic packages of principles, such as religion and legal systems. While it isn’t necessarily a bad thing to use others’ principles—it’s difficult to come up with your own, and often much wisdom has gone into those already created—adopting pre-packaged principles without much thought exposes you to the risk of inconsistency with your true values. Holding incompatible principles can lead to conflict between values and actions—like the hypocrite who has claims to be of a religion yet behaves counter to its teachings. Your principles need to reflect values you really believe in."
"When people say "it's the principle," it's never the principle. It's the specific situation. And by looking at examples of "hypocrisy," we can often work backward to figure out what principles people really hold."
Very often the real principle at work is they want to say they are doing some noble deeds in order to get your money.
I am not in a position to give over a coherent set of values. Mainly I come from a situation which I saw authentic Jewish, menschlich family values in action--that is my parents home. Ever since then I have tried to figure out what made it tick. What was the theory behind the practice? What were the unstated values of my parents that made them so wholesome, and profoundly simple, and decent?
I cant say I ever came to anything that remotely seems to fit the bill. The best I can come up with is to take note of things that they practiced but did not preach. And on very rare occasions would actual pronounce the value the were practicing.--But that was very rare. In the 18 years I lived with them i maybe heard them once of twice say openly some value. But even then the most important values were things they never said--they just did.
(1) Truth. To speak the truth at all cost. Never to mince words. To speak your mind and shoot straight from the hip.
(2) Loyalty to family.
(3) Jewish values. Ethical Monotheism. But my parents came from religious homes. So even though we went to a Reform Shul, Temple Israel in Hollywood our values were probably a little more traditional that what you would find in an average Reform Shul. I even remember my mother saying something about the "social justice" message that you would hear in such a place and he didn't think that that was a good representation of authentic Judaism.
(4) I am not saying them all. I should say my parents saw Math and Physics as an area of value worth pursuing in itself --not for the sake of making a living. And besides that they saw the idea of working for living as being very important. They would have looked askew on anything group that emulated the idea of depending on charity as a goal.
See this link
Principles
"Where do principles come from? Sometimes we forge our own principles and sometimes we accept others’ principles, or holistic packages of principles, such as religion and legal systems. While it isn’t necessarily a bad thing to use others’ principles—it’s difficult to come up with your own, and often much wisdom has gone into those already created—adopting pre-packaged principles without much thought exposes you to the risk of inconsistency with your true values. Holding incompatible principles can lead to conflict between values and actions—like the hypocrite who has claims to be of a religion yet behaves counter to its teachings. Your principles need to reflect values you really believe in."
"When people say "it's the principle," it's never the principle. It's the specific situation. And by looking at examples of "hypocrisy," we can often work backward to figure out what principles people really hold."
Very often the real principle at work is they want to say they are doing some noble deeds in order to get your money.
I am not in a position to give over a coherent set of values. Mainly I come from a situation which I saw authentic Jewish, menschlich family values in action--that is my parents home. Ever since then I have tried to figure out what made it tick. What was the theory behind the practice? What were the unstated values of my parents that made them so wholesome, and profoundly simple, and decent?
I cant say I ever came to anything that remotely seems to fit the bill. The best I can come up with is to take note of things that they practiced but did not preach. And on very rare occasions would actual pronounce the value the were practicing.--But that was very rare. In the 18 years I lived with them i maybe heard them once of twice say openly some value. But even then the most important values were things they never said--they just did.
(1) Truth. To speak the truth at all cost. Never to mince words. To speak your mind and shoot straight from the hip.
(2) Loyalty to family.
(3) Jewish values. Ethical Monotheism. But my parents came from religious homes. So even though we went to a Reform Shul, Temple Israel in Hollywood our values were probably a little more traditional that what you would find in an average Reform Shul. I even remember my mother saying something about the "social justice" message that you would hear in such a place and he didn't think that that was a good representation of authentic Judaism.
(4) I am not saying them all. I should say my parents saw Math and Physics as an area of value worth pursuing in itself --not for the sake of making a living. And besides that they saw the idea of working for living as being very important. They would have looked askew on anything group that emulated the idea of depending on charity as a goal.
