I can see why people thought being part of the religious world would provide insulation against the secular trends. The truth though is the opposite. [People should learn Torah, but not assume that those that claim to teach it are holy. The opposite is the case. There seems to be an overflow in the religious world of vicious, cruel, and stupid people that you would generally not except to find there.
The religious world provides an illusion of being immune. In fact, I believe it is more corrupt--though more hidden.
[I also had a great deal of pain and frustration that I was not very good in math, though later I developed a taste for it. I did not get smarter, I just developed a taste for it.] Now that I think of it my frustration at my lack of abilities was probably more painful than being dumped by Wendy. But both things were the most painful things I had ever gone through.
Don't think that I wrote some decent books on the Talmud, that makes me smart. I had amazing teachers and a really great learning partner that showed me the way.