Marriage today is undergoing some kind of strange transformation

 I have no advice but I just wanted to mention that when my wife left me I found it helpful to be very careful  never to say a negative word about her to anyone. Since I knew I was going into a period of tremendous turmoil I also found it useful to find one core principle to stick with at all cost and that was to tell the truth always under all circumstances. These two ideas I believed helped me get through the problems..