The first order of business of the Guru is the castrate all the other males--that is to make them into Beta Males where their wives listen to the shaman, guru or pastor; not their husbands.
And since being part of a group (a social super-organism) is central to all humans --and since the most effective and powerful super-organism is the one centered on the Alpha Male--one can not very well avoid this dynamic.
The best idea thus is to find the group that most accurately goes by objective morality. To my mind that is the Litvak Yeshiva [yeshiva based on the path of the Gra]. But that is really just based on my own positive experience in two of those kinds of places. Shar Yashuv and the Mir--both in NY. I admit other people may have had a worse experience, and I myself had some reason to think they are not all of equal quality after seeing many others besides those two in NY.
But I try to support any group that I see as doing good work and I see their vector is towards objective morality and the God of Abraham Isaac and Jacob.